“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye
and fail to notice the plank in your own? How can you say to your brother,
‘Let me take the speck out of your eye’ when you cannot see the plank in your own?
You fraud, take the plank out of your own eye first and then you
can see clearly enough to remove your brother’s speck.”
~ Luke 6:41-42 (JB Phillips) ~
No one is perfect.
You can’t fix me; I can’t fix you.
Men, you can’t fix your girlfriends or wives.
Women, you can’t fix your boyfriends or husbands.
Parents, you can’t fix your child(ren).
Children, you can’t fix your siblings.
Child(ren), you can’t fix your parents.
Friends, you can’t fix each other.
The truth is, none of us can fix another—though we vainly try.
When we try to fix someone, we’re telling them, “You don’t measure up to my expectations. You should be like this….” Or, “You have this sin in your life, this is what you need to do….”
None of us will ever measure up to another’s expectations. Regrettably, we’re often blind to our own sins, but we can surely see someone else’s! That’s why so many outside the church see us as hypocrites.
The truth is, we are all broken; we’re not things that need to be repaired, we’re beings made in the image of God who need healing, and only the Lord can do that. It’s so easy for us to take God’s place and tell another what they need to do. Lord, help us!
He has given us instructions for our lives, “Husbands, do this; wives, do this; children, do this…. Friends, love….” He has given us His Holy Spirit and His word to teach and instruct us and enable us to walk worthy of the calling He has on our lives.
Furthermore, He only tells us about us, not what is going on in someone else’s life. He doesn’t want us to condemn others, but wants us to be patient, tenderhearted, loving, gracious, and merciful—just like He is to us.
Father, how quickly I forget that I’m not in control of my life, let alone another’s life! How quickly I forget that I am not my own, but Yours! Forgive me for usurping Your position, both in my life and another person’s life. Help me to be fully surrendered to You and be like You to them, and so fulfill the commandment to love my neighbor as myself. It’s not by might, nor by power, but by Your Spirit that this will be done, Father (Zechariah 4:6); this is my request, asked in Jesus’ name, amen.